Sorry for the delay in getting this post up – I’ve been having some wifi issues
Also I’ve been overloading myself and trying to juggle too many things at once…
What is your comfort zone? How do you step out of it?
For some people challenging themselves might mean going out more, meeting new people, trying a new hobby or visiting a new place.
But recently I’ve realised that for me it means taking things down a notch, slowing the pace and allowing myself to CHILL.
I’m most comfortable living life at a pace of 100 mph.
Never content with just sitting still, I always have to be doing something whether it’s discovering aerial hoop classes, dancing, going out with friends, writing a song, writing a book, studying something or pushing myself to a new limit.
But what inevitably happens is that I take on too much, get stressed, panic about the amount of things I have to do and then realise I’ve got no one to blame for it but myself.
Take this blog for example.
I initially had the ambitious notion that I would post a daily haiku in addition to a weekly article.
At first it was fine but since I’m working full time I soon found it hard to keep on top of.
So I scrapped the daily haiku idea and stuck to doing a weekly post.
(I recently got a haiku published and my bio says I still do daily haikus so apologies if you’ve followed this blog on that basis.)
But now even posting once a week has become a bit of a challenge since I’m doing so much other stuff.
It all boils down to finding the right balance in life – something which may seem difficult to do but is actually incredibly simple.
Now every time I do something I need to ask myself – Why am I doing this?
Am I doing a dance class because I think I need to lose weight or because I enjoy it?
Am I writing a blog because I want likes and followers or because I want to help others?
Am I reading a book/article because it’s on a topic I feel I should know more about or one that I’m genuinely interested in?
When we examine the motives behind our actions we get to the core of what’s going on.
For me it’s usually pride, self-doubt, fear and perfectionism.
Deep down part of me still thinks I’m not good enough and therefore have to prove myself to the world.
But I don’t and neither do you.
So today, have a rest, put your feet up, take 10 minutes to meditate, read a celebrity magazine, watch TV or do a crossword – whatever makes you happy.
We don’t need to constantly grasp for something to make us whole.
We can be liberated from our negative self-talk and the shoulds, and coulds, and “need to” statements.
Everything we need is within.